“Are you all in?”
It’s a question I find myself asking often, in everything I do. Whether it’s my career, my family, my health, or my role as a husband and father, there’s always this internal check—am I really giving it my all?
Being “all in” isn’t just about effort; it’s a mindset. It’s a commitment to show up fully, to push beyond what’s comfortable, and to engage with purpose. In my life, I’ve found that it’s not enough to just be present. You have to be engaged, invested, and focused. You have to be all in.
When it comes to family, for example, I remind myself that being there isn’t just about physical presence. Am I truly listening? Am I connecting with my kids, my partner, in a way that lets them know they are my priority? Time is finite, and while I may not always have control over my schedule, I have control over how I show up. Am I all in when I’m with them? I hope so.
In my career, the stakes are high. Responsibilities, challenges, and the constant need to stay ahead can be overwhelming. It’s tempting to just go through the motions some days. But I know that if I’m going to make a real impact, I need to commit. I need to remind myself that this isn’t just a job—it’s a platform. Am I giving my best, pushing boundaries, solving problems with real intent? Am I all in?
Health is another pillar. I’ve learned that taking care of myself isn’t just for me; it’s for the people who count on me. It’s easy to brush aside workouts, to cut corners on eating well, or to stay up late working instead of getting enough sleep. But the truth is, if I’m not healthy—mentally and physically—I can’t be there for the people who need me most. Am I all in on taking care of myself so I can take care of them?
As a husband and father, the idea of being “all in” is something I hold close. These are the roles that matter most. I’m not perfect, and I make mistakes, but I try to keep the perspective that being present, being patient, being understanding is what makes the difference. Am I making the choices that reflect my priorities? Am I all in when it matters most?
Being “all in” doesn’t mean perfection. It doesn’t mean never failing. It means that in the moments that count—in the areas that define us—we choose to show up fully. We choose to push harder, to care deeper, to engage more intentionally. It’s a question worth asking, and one I’ll continue to ask myself every day.
Am I all in?